What I deserve.

“HEAL yourself and KNOW yourself. That is the secret to joy.” – A voice in a dream I had March 16, 2014

To be proud of myself daily.

To wake up wanting to dance. 

Beautiful natural surroundings to nurture me.

Love in every facet of life.

People around me who are willing to learn and grow.

Spiritual connection/communication with source.

Happiness in my own company.

Beautiful animals around my living environment. 

Balanced physical body.

Fresh, fresh, FRESH air.

Financial abundance to support my life journey

Peace and silence when sought after. 

Respect from all loving beings.

To learn something inspirational daily. 

A clear mind, uncluttered and open.

A truly radiant body temple for my soul. 

A permanent smile and zest for existence.

ASK YOURSELF: What do I deserve? The first step to changing your life is getting clear…



We’re all in this together

This comic conveys such a powerful message: 

It reminds me that everyone is not so different, that we all doubt our path in life, and we all wish that we could be ‘like someone else,’ assuming they have it easier and undermining our own strength and resourcefulness.

And most interesting thing about this phenomenon: We are embarrassed to share this self-doubt with the world and form the necessary support group we all want.

Why is there a social stigma against people who feel like they need some guidance in their life? We see the stigma reflected in societal embarrassment of self-help books, life coaches, psychics, and therapy. Maybe if we all confided in one another more often, like on a daily basis, to understand that what we are feeling is not abnormal then we could eradicate these stigmata.

People should be proud that their self-improvement and growth is so important to them that they feel the need to seek advice. The person who feels they know it all and wishes to ostracize themselves from other people may actually be ignoring a powerful truth: There is a sort of contagion in certainty, meaning that when others can reach a state of absolute certainty then we too can feel more certain that we have all the necessary resources, attributes, and skills to accomplish our life’s goals.

As social creatures, we naturally need each other for reassurance. So let’s start sharing our thoughts, concerns, and doubts without shame.

What 2013 taught me…

Life Lessons of 2013!

So as my version of “2013 year in review,” I am going to begin an ongoing project I’ve always wanted to do: Write a list of all the things I’ve learned about life, happiness, and myself at the end of every year and pass them onto my future children to reassure and guide them as they experience similar periods of personal growth.

SO HERE WE GO! 10 things I learned this year:

1) Keeping promises to ourselves is hard but not impossible. If we treat our self-promises like those we make to family, friends, and co-workers then we will be pleasantly surprised at how much we accomplish. Your self-appreciation and self-esteem will soar when you know you can always trust yourself to follow through.

2) Sleep is sacred. We sleep 1/3 of our lives for a reason, to rejuvenate and revitalize our bodies so we can thrive and be ambitious in the other 2/3. Don’t miss out on this key ingredient for daily success.

3) Time is precious and unlimited. I’m not talking about clock time, I’m talking about perceived time. An hour can be the most productive unit of time you’ll ever experience if you become the master of it. Expect more from your time and watch it deliver.

4) Becoming overwhelmed by goals till the point of paralysis is worse than having no goals at all. Don’t let the anxiety about accomplishing ‘daunting’ goals control your daily emotional experience. Focus on the process and eliminate the feelings of overwhelm and uncertainty that come from over-occupation with the big picture. Instead, make sure that everyday you are systematically moving in the direction of your goal with small steps. I found a great article to sum this lesson up, here!

5) Throwing your hands up and exclaiming “What the heck!” is unbelievably therapeutic. Letting go and being able to live in the moment is a skill and a gift. Learning to let go of expectations, over planning, and over analysis and ‘just be’ will help you to experience and enjoy this journey called life, without the troubled spirit.

6) People change. You change. And that’s okay.

7) Meditation is a human need. I’ve discovered that meditation comes in many forms: lying quietly, dancing to your favorite song, getting in the zone in a workout, admiring your own reflection, listening to the quiet, and taking a shower are all examples of different ways to meditate. Meditation is a human need. It reconnects us with that part of ourself that is aware that our very existence in this life is magical and the ultimate blessing. Experience self-gratitude.

8) Don’t be afraid to chase a dream. You are not hurting yourself but, instead, exploring yourself. You get one life, never forget that.

9) Never assume you know someone’s story. When I meet new people, my pre-concieved assumptions about their character, life experience, and beliefs are usually blown to bits within the first interaction. The moment you believe you can read and understand every person is the moment you lose your ability to connect, learn, and grow. If you are not growing, you are dying.

10) You are not the same person you were yesterday. As hard as this is to wrap your head around, it is true. We like to think of ourselves as static, instead of dynamic, because the familiar is the safe. But every day, every moment, every action is an opportunity to remake yourself. Like clay, we can all change shape with the warm touch of drive and enthusiasm for our personal growth.

What did 2013 teach you? Comment and share your own yearly insights to document your own growth. 

Gratitude: the lens of extraordinary beauty

When someone says you have “no reason,” tell them you have every reason to feel grateful.

We all have these rare, fleeting moments. The ones where absolutely EVERYTHING around you looks beautiful and perfect the way it is. You send love to everything and everyone you pass. You stop in the mirror and, instead of critiquing your reflection, you simply look into your own eyes and profess gratitude that you are you. You are here. You valuable. And you are impossibly beautiful in every sense of the word.

Those moments feel like magic. When you are in them, it feels natural (“Why don’t I always feel this way? It’s so obvious my life is beautiful the way it is.”). Then later, when you allow your socialized pessimism to parasitically invade, you believe you were dumb to think that magic was real (“I was just delusional. It’s time to wake up”).

BUT, then something incredible happens: You experience another magic moment and you are convinced like before that perfection is all around you. The more you have those moments, the more centered in reality, not fantasy, they feel. The pessimism fades over time. A life of embracing these moments, I presume, is the kind of peace you find in many old people. The world is different for them because the lure of those magic moments have consumed them. Permanently.

This is what I like to call, Gravitational Gratitude. The moments have an intrinsically amble force that pulls you into the light and away from learned pessimism. They give you security. They remind you of your interconnectedness with the internal and external world because they ground you. You are your own planet and the Sun is the all that is around you. Its pull is magnetic and gives you life.

In these moments you are the impartial observer (you don’t see imperfections as connoting negativity because everything is neutral) and thank the world for being the way it is, in this moment, RIGHT NOW.

By changing the meaning of what’s around you, you realize that nothing is inherently flawed and all animate and inanimate life is intrinsically perfect. Your utopia exists in this moment. You are certain you could die happy.

A lesson I’m learning to be true, the secret to eternal happiness: It is impossible to be afraid, upset, or unsatisfied when you feel GRATITUDE for all that is, isn’t, and will be. 

Try it yourself: Imagine a nuclear bomb is dropping to end your world and destroy all the people in your life. Now, in your minds eye, turn to those people and gaze at them in a lens of love. Feel how lucky you are to have spent your life with them, learned from their presence. Feel how safe they make you feel when you see them in this loving light. Thank them and everything around you that you value and feel the gratitude for having been given the chance to live even a moment of your life with these people, these things, and these experiences. Do you still feel afraid of your impending death? Most likely not.

Gratitude is love. Love is strength. Strength is certainty. And certainty invincibility. 

Nothing can bring you down when you embody a state of gratitude. Truly nothing.

When you feel those next moments of utter gratitude for all the is, isn’t, and will be, let them consume you. Embody it so they are no longer rare, fleeting moments you let fade with time but a state of being in which you live your life.

It’s clear

We are the creators of our own universe, if we choose.

Sometimes, when I am confronted with a challenge, I know exactly what I need to do. Intellectually it is not difficult. What’s most difficult for me is actually doing it.

A lot of the time it’s not a motivation issue, it’s more of a second-guessing issue. I don’t trust myself or the plans I make and change my mind at the last minute or procrastinate my time away to avoid making a decision and sticking with it. Approaching a challenge in an unconventional way scares me and induces a mental paralysis and energy drainage. I feel week when I succumb to this phobia (a purely irrational fear).

Perhaps it’s the fear that consistent attempts to ignore what I’ve been told and do it my way will backfire and I’ll learn the hard way that things are as they are because the alternatives do not work. Of course, this itself can’t be true. Just because we are alive in this moment, doesn’t mean history is over. We are creating it. What we do differently today, regardless of the intrinsic risk and threat of failure, may be the way of the future.  I need to remember, that by challenging the status-quo I am contributing to societal progression.

I want to be a innovative citizen, not a passive observer of “what is” instead of striving for “what ought to be.”

Too many of us self-sabotage. We fear ourselves and the power we possess in the amazing organ called our brain. It’s as complex as our galaxy itself, yet we fear the exploration of its full potential daily. What might we find? Will we let the brilliance be blinding and fear evoking or illuminating to the extraordinary things we could create if we embraced the temporary risk and uncertainty in the now?


How can our brain, with more neurons than our galaxy itself, subject itself to such a simple minded existence and not itch to think critically the way it was designed to do. Why do people think that just because they are alive means history is over?

It really hurts.